This past Friday, I got the news that a friend of mine had died in a freak diving accident while on vacation with her husband. Over the weekend, there were 2 separate shootings in Orlando that rocked the community and left over 50 people dead and many more wounded. And yesterday, I got a text from my mom, that one of my childhood best friends had just lost their dad unexpectedly.
Life is seriously short! We have no idea how many days our future holds. While I’ve always tried to be intentional in the time I spend with my family, I’m even more serious now about making every moment count!
If this is a struggle for you, I’d like to share 3 tips for Making Moments Count!
1. Put Your Family First
You make appointments for meetings at work, you make appointments to get your hair done, why not make appointments that prioritize your family? Schedule in date nights, play time with the kids, or whatever suits your lifestyle. These don’t have to be expensive trips or over-the-top outings. Our goal this summer is to do something fun with the kids 3 nights a week. We’ve been going to the pool, having movie nights with a projector, taking fun family walks and we even made a trip to Tokens and Tickets. It’s been really fun for all of us! If you put your family time on your calendar, when the calendar starts to become crowded with work or other commitments, your family doesn’t get crowded out.
2. Define or Create Your Family Traditions
Every family has unique traditions that define them. What were the traditions you noticed as you grew up? What were the traditions you heard your grandparents and parents discuss? How did you handle holidays, special occasions, and other events?
Maybe you came from a dysfunctional family and you don’t really have family traditions. It’s not too late to create your own family traditions.
We created a new family tradition a few years ago. Each summer we have a whipped cream fight…and by we, I mean my mom and dad, my siblings and their spouses, and all of our kids. We all get cans of whipped cream and we have at it. It’s fun, it’s messy, and it’s one of the highlights of the kids year!
Traditions can come in many forms and vary greatly from family to family. They can include favorite meals, different ways to celebrate the holidays, special gifts for unusual events, vacations to the same spot, or whipped cream fights. If you already have family traditions, write them down.
Ideal family traditions will help your family members grow closer together and make cherished memories together.
3. Capture the moments and revisit them
It’s so easy to think certain moments will be unforgettable, but in the business and craziness of life, we do just that…forget the unforgettable moments. Document your moments by taking pictures and videos.
When your child jumps off the high dive for the first time, take a picture.
When you go trick or treating at the zoo, take a picture.
When you’re heading to breakfast at the hotel on the day your brother gets married and you see him in the hallway, you take a picture of him with your pajama clad kiddos.
I love when my Facebook memories pop up in my feed. It’s fun to look at fun things my kids did 4 years ago or to see how much they’ve grown and changed over the years. Take a day once a month to scroll back through old photos on your phone or computer. Better yet, create a Photo Album with highlights of the past year…and then work backwards so you have 1 (or more) photo albums a year that document the “highlights” of the year as well as everyday moments!
There are days when I wish I had a camera crew following us around and documenting our memories for us. One of the reasons I love Bringing Up Bates so much is that while they are fortunate in that they do have camera crews recording the memories they make, they’re also very intentional in making the moments they have with each other count. I love that they Facetime each other when they’re away…just like I Facetime my kids when I’m traveling. I love that they care for each other and bear each others burdens (like when Gil was in the hospital). They are a family that really makes the most of each moment! And they’re oh-so-fun too!
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